If you're like me, you are that single friend out of your group.
Almost 30 with most of my friends in relationships (or shituationship for some), things can get lonely, especially when your weekends are mostly spent at home with the pups. Don't get me wrong, I love my dogs, but sometimes it's a mental battle of "where is MY person?". Admittedly there has been the occasional avoidance of hanging out because I'd rather not be the third wheel or listen to the drama. However, not all hope is lost. Apart from working on my career and personal goals, there is one thing that sometimes helps me; that I hope helps you when you are blue about the single life—dating yourself. Yea, I know, it sounds kind of lame & lonely, but I implore you to AT LEAST try it once. Ladies, this doesn't just apply to you; this is for the men too.
I went to the Nashville Zoo last week on a fluke sunny day & I have never spent that much time at the zoo. Though I am sure the pandemic & winter season accounted for the lack of people there, I was able to walk around at my own pace. I did not have to worry about what someone else wanted to do or see. There was no "Let's go here!" or "I don't want to see the reptiles." By no means am I putting down those of you that are in healthy relationships, but I know you all occasionally miss not having to consider what your significant other wants to do & doing what YOU want to do instead. At the end of my day, I had completely forgotten that I was even by myself. I would also like to add that going places solo makes navigating around people a lot easier. I had a good time & was able to get a good amount of content for my vlog. I would hate for anyone to miss out on the fun or a great opportunity simply because they didn't have someone to do it with them.
I dare you to get dressed up & take yourself to a nice restaurant. You won't have to share your food with anyone & you never know, your server may be cool enough & surprise you with a complimentary meal. (I've had this happen, though I wasn't sure if it was because he thought I got stood up or what. Hahaha!)
If a fancy restaurant is not your scene (or your budget), find a local museum, event, or activity. Through this process, please remind yourself that it's okay to be single versus settling for less than what you need and want in a relationship.
"You are going to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince." the saying goes. Ultimately, the more time spent caring & treating yourself as your "person" is less time spent thinking about why or when your chance at love will come.
What are some things you all do to date yourself?
Until my next adventure,
Na'Brel Says, Owner & Operator
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